For those who want to manage others – have you thought about why you want to do so? Is it for the supposed “power” that comes from telling others what to do? Is it because you want to control situations? Is it because you always what to put forward your own ideas and implement your own practices? All really, really horrible reasons to manage others. And, frankly, will ensure you fail in a management role. However, some people believe that to climb up in an organization you have to manage people. This is not necessarily true in every organization. I have a number of friends who are great individual contributors but would not do well managing a team. They know that and, because they know that about themselves, excel at their roles and are real assets to their organizations and are regularly promoted into roles with increasing responsibilities.
If you truly want to be a manager of others, you need to be doing so for the right reasons, keeping in mind it is not an easy role nor something that everyone needs to or should aspire to. Here are the right reasons for being a people manager:
- You care about people and want to help others succeed as you have by providing guidance and direction.
- You are eager to share your own knowledge and expertise, but also to learn from others.
- You know you don’t have all the answers and want to partner with your team to provide the best work product.
- You enjoy working with others collaboratively.
- You want to be a mentor to help others develop professionally, helping them to get what they need so that they are successful.
- You love working with people! They engage you and keep you motivated and you do the same for them.
- You put your team’s needs ahead of your own.
- You help to align your individual team member’s goals with the organizational goals and goals set without your department or work group.
If the above doesn’t sound like you – no worries! You don’t have to be a manager to succeed in business. For those that undertake a people management role and don’t really enjoy it – all it does is create stress, frustration and make going to work a depressing event.
Hi David,
Thank you for sharing your story; there is a lesson here for many and I appreciate you sharing.
I completely agree that having an ego likely does not help in management, but rather hinder being a successful manager. You’d be surprised (although maybe not!) how many never learn from their mistakes.
Thank you for your very thoughtful comment and for reading!
Happy New Year!
Best regards,
Gina
Hi Gina, Karina
I’m a 29 years old guy from Europe who had got 700.000 USD VC a year ago so I had to become a CEO pretty quickly. I had experience in project management and team leadership so I thought It would be fine… but it didn’t go well.
Luckily I had a terrible partner (really) who had some deep psychological problem with creating results and taking responsibility which led to the collapse of our startup. (Rule #1 dubble check your partner)
I was lucky because his behavior helped me to realize that I was not omnipotent who can solve every situation, everybody’s problem. I thought that I could change his life and help him to fight with his bad habits (10 years older than me) but it was a mistake. Finally I realized that its all about me and specially about my ego. (Pardon, EGO) It’s ME who want to solve, speak, do, act and my team is the audience.
It was painful to realize that my ego makes me a bad leader. I thought that my ego drives me end helps me becoming a leader but not. It drags me down.
So that’s why I think that the manager has to destroy his ego in order to do his duty.
What do you think?
Gina,
My pleasure and I totally agree. That’s how I learned not to micromanage :).
Happy Holidays!
Hi Karina,
The best companies quickly sort through managers to determine the best who motivate and engage employees. The others, they soon get rid of. Unfortunately, for some companies, they get rid of their worst managers only when they notice their best employees are walking out the door! I do find, however, that you learn quite a bit from a poor manager – like what not to do!
Thanks for reading and for your comment.
Happy Holidays!
Best,
Gina
Gina, great post and I so agree with you. I unfortunately have either worked for or worked with managers who should not be allowed to have any control over others’ livelihood given their reasons for being in that position and/or their lack of self-awareness and emotional intelligence. Having a bad manager can really affect one’s health and life and I wish that there was some prerequisite to giving someone that type of power that ensured they wouldn’t ill use it.